American society praises strong, independent women with their own personal views. However, it is these expectations that make many women always become their image of society. They try to speak, walk, express their views so that they are personal. I know a girl who looks very strong and independent. Sometimes I wish “if only I could be like her.” The way of talking, walking, and putting her personal opinion on a charismatic spirit is admirable. ” But I was very surprised, seeing how she solved a seemingly simple incident. That day, a student of her class who was working as a teaching assistant came to our office complaining about the point (the student said it was polite, courteous and didn’t mean to offend her). Unexpectedly, she couldn’t control her emotions, and burst into tears. Then she complained non-stop about the difficulties she encountered as an assistant to the class. Suddenly, I felt a big gap between what she tried to appear outside and her true self.